Guest Blog Post:What is Love?


By Gideon Kirimanjaro

Dear no one•

“Have you ever been in love? Horrible
isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable.
It opens your chest and it opens up
your heart and it means that
someone can get inside you and
mess you up. You build up all these
defenses, you build up a whole suit
of armor, so that nothing can hurt
you, then one stupid person, no
different from any other stupid
person, wanders into your stupid
life…You give them a piece of you.
They didn’t ask for it. They did
something dumb one day, like kiss
you or smile at you, and then your
life isn’t your own anymore. Love
takes hostages. It gets inside you. It
eats you out and leaves you crying
in the darkness, so simple a phrase
like ‘maybe we should be just
friends’ turns into a glass splinter
working its way into your heart. It
hurts. Not just in the imagination.
Not just in the mind. It’s a soul-
hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-
you-apart pain.
Only once in your life, I truly
believe, you find someone who can
completely turn your world around.
You tell them things that you’ve
never shared with another soul and
they absorb everything you say and
actually want to hear more. You
share hopes for the future, dreams
that will never come true, goals that
were never achieved and the many
disappointments life has thrown at
you. When something wonderful
happens, you can’t wait to tell them
about it, knowing they will share in
your excitement. They are not
embarrassed to cry with you when
you are hurting or laugh with you
when you make a fool of yourself.
Never do they hurt your feelings or
make you feel like you are not good
enough, but rather they build you
up and show you the things about
yourself that make you special and
even beautiful. There is never any
pressure, jealousy or competition
but only a quiet calmness when they
are around. You can be yourself and
not worry about what they will think
of you because they love you for who
you are. The things that seem
insignificant to most people such as
a note, song or walk become
invaluable treasures kept safe in
your heart to cherish forever.
Memories of your childhood come
back and are so clear and vivid it’s
like being young again. Colours seem
brighter and more brilliant. Laughter
seems part of daily life where before
it was infrequent or didn’t exist at
all. A phone call or two during the
day helps to get you through a long
day’s work and always brings a smile
to your face. In their presence,
there’s no need for continuous
conversation, but you find you’re
quite content in just having them
nearby. Things that never interested
you before become fascinating
because you know they are
important to this person who is so
special to you. You think of this
person on every occasion and in
everything you do. Simple things
bring them to mind like a pale blue
sky, gentle wind or even a storm
cloud on the horizon. You open your
heart knowing that there’s a chance
it may be broken one day and in
opening your heart, you experience
a love and joy that you never
dreamed possible. You find that
being vulnerable is the only way to
allow your heart to feel true
pleasure that’s so real it scares you.
You find strength in knowing you
have a true friend and possibly a
soul mate who will remain loyal to
the end. Life seems completely
different, exciting and worthwhile.
Your only hope and security is in
knowing that they are a part of your